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[grim23]

OK. It has been pointed out that my journal has become, "that place where [I] go to convalesce by having the majority of your posting community fawn all over [me], tend to [my] wounds, stroke [my] ego and tell [me] what [I] want to hear"... but, as my broccoli friends point out, what would be the fun in that?

Right now, I'm about learning, especially about the not-so-pleasant aspects of me. I need to learn about how to interact with others better and deal with how people really think and feel about me. Honesty, not fawning. Community forum. No filters.

I've just posted a snapshot personality test, and my astrology chart, giving ample suggestions for ways I do and do not work within the Universe, not to discount your own experiences. Apparently there are those who do not feel comfortable in other forums, so...here it is. Fire away, both barrels. I will not judge you, or even reply, other than to say thank you for the input, unless you request it. I will consider everything that's written, and try to incorporate it into my future Life.

Thank you for your time.

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Two more tiny cents about Anon

[nericksx.livejournal.com]

The use of his name was the other reason that I surmised that Anon does not have an LJ account, and thus is unfamiliar with online communities. My SIL is a bellydancer and has a dance name. One night at a dance show I mentioned to an employee at the restaurant that I was with "***" mt SIL's actual name. They just stared at me: "who?" Later, my SIL pulled me aside and tutored me that the people who know her as Leylah, do not know her real name and it is that way on purpose. I had NO idea. I felt silly. I wonder if Anon is unaware of our no-name custom? I think even I used his actual name in my early days of LJ, unaware. I'm not trying to defend anyone, just trying to offer up possible misunderstandings that could be mistrued as deliberate actions.

Aurora, that was very big of you to offer up apologies, particularly to an anonymous party. Not that you need my approval, but you certainly have earned my respect. *Bows* My I "friend" you on my LJ?

Wow... I hate to be the person who adds one more thing to this! (Re: Two more tiny cents about Anon

[aurorawyndancer.livejournal.com]

but... since I'm not sure how else to answer you Nericksx. Thank you for accepting my apology, and for the honor of "friend" *smiles*... I'm pretty sure I've made an enemy or two in this, but such is life. Glad to know you aren't one of them.

I'm not sure if the Anon I went off on and Aria are the same or if that is the other Anon, I can't unravel it anymore... but whoever that was... they were the lucky "last straw" so to speak... and probably unaware of the history leading up to this...

I may have overreacted, but in my heart, nothing about how I feel about all this has changed, just that my temper has cooled after talking to Grim and seeing another perspective, and understanding his "why" of this request.

What I was seeing, was someone I love, being brow-beaten by his "friends" unknown to me, for reasons I could not fathom, and not in manners I personally could respect by being public about it... so I... (yes that's right I, me, over here, loudmouthed one) Judged the "broccoli" crowd and anyone who seemed to be jumping on that bandwagon...

and I got righteously furious and protective, of seeing my loved one standing there in front of us all, naked, unshielded, no armour, hurting, trying to work through his "stuff", vulnerable... and willing to take the beating... feeling proud of him, but angry at those who in my eyes were "kicking him while he was down, and pour salt and lemon on his wounds"...

So.. I ranted. Not an excuse, I make no excuses... but I felt you all deserved an explanation of my behavior.

Grim pointed out to me that anger and rage are all about fear... so what are you afraid of Aurora?

I was afraid of seeing him hurt... and seeing his newfound willingness to be vulnerable squashed forever, cut short before it even bloomed...

I am sorry for ranting... and I do apologize to Anon (whichever one it was)... I saw you as an unknown attacker, and just started swinging... when clearly, you love Grim just as much as me... probably more, and longer.

And now, I'm done...

*bows to all*
~Aurora

Re: Wow... I hate to be the person who adds one more thing to this! (Re: Two more tiny cents about A

[nericksx.livejournal.com]

It's good that Grim has such a loyal friend in close proximity. Grim and Aurora are lucky to have each other. *nods, smiles*