A question.

[grim23]

So, while drinking Turkish coffee with my BF while in Raleigh before we went to a biker rally, she said that I am often unaware that I sometimes make requests of people in a way that makes it difficult for them to say no or ask for what they need, and set their own boundaries with me. She said this may come across as manipulation or taking advantage of people. At the same time, she also said that once I am aware of a boundary, I am very good at honoring it.

She also said my greatest quality was challenging others to grow and develop.


I welcome all comments, anonymous or not, regarding her insights into me. Anything. I do not question her perception of me. What I'm looking for is other feedback about how I do these things. I am in NC for a year, and I have a chance to grow while I am away from who I was when I was in OR. I'm working on improving my self, especially my communication with others.

Thank you.

Comments

[jharma.livejournal.com]

While I admire the strength it takes to even ask this question of folks, not to mention the strength it will take to remain open while "hearing" the responses, I'm not sure I'm the right person to ask regarding this. However, since you found the strength to ask, the least I can do is find the strength to respond as myself.

I will give this some thought, if you don't mind, and return soon with a response.

Namaste,

Jharma

[grim23]

Thank you.